Boundaries

I was speaking with a client recently and we discussed her creating boundaries. What exactly are boundaries? What does this mean?

Boundaries are defined as “the limits and rules we set for ourselves within a relationship.”

This doesn’t mean just romantic relationships or partnerships; it applies to all types of relationships.

Some types of boundaries:

· Ownership, initiating, and controlling your finances

· The ability to stay true to yourself and your personal beliefs

· The right to CHANGE YOUR mind or your feelings

· Your personal time and space

I decided a long time ago that my job was not going to be my life. I refuse to put work email on my personal phone. That would be a boundary I have created for my work/life balance. When I leave the office, I leave work behind.

Another boundary could be that you make yourself and your self-care a priority. For example, if your self-care is a massage once a month, you make that a priority. You don’t miss it. You might say no to other plans to make sure it happens.

Boundaries can apply to friendships too. If I know someone talks poorly about me behind my back, I don’t need to be friends with that person and will keep them at a distance. Trust is a must in all types of relationships and once that boundary is broken, I don’t need to be around that person.

Some families value family dinner time and maybe practices or meetings are missed occasionally to keep that special time of togetherness.

Sometimes they are little, sometimes they are big. But they always should make you feel better and in control of your journey. It can be difficult, especially if you have not created any in your relationships. People have a hard time adjusting. But those that care about you will always understand and support you. ©

What are some examples of boundaries you have made in your life or relationships?